There are 2 Things, Nawl 3 Things You Don’t Mess With
May 28, 2015, 10:00 AM
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I’m sure you heard a mother say, there are 2 things you don’t mess with; her child/ren and her money, but then with hesitation for some and proudly with others there’s one more; her man/husband.  To be a woman, I’m so thankful.  I do not have children of my own, but let me say.  My choice would be to have a husband first, but I don’t have him, yet either.  Yet, I can understand the challenge; just based on dealing with my money.  I don’t like MANipulators. They come off as people who really don’t know what they want and can’t be trusted.  I could go on with name calling, but that’s not my purpose for this message.

Because I’ve had the experience of raising my nephew and taking care of other people’s children.  I will say I’m honored to have been trusted with such privilege.  One can learn from these little people, we call children and you would want to protect the gift that’s inside of them, that haven’t fully blossomed.  During their childhood, an adult have an opportunity to plant seeds in there lives to hopefully take root to be remembered when they become an adult.  I don’t play when it comes to other people’s kid/s.  I treat them as if they were my own when they are with me.  They must eat, sleep and of course learn something when they are with me.  I will  ensure they follow the rules set by their parent/s and they will understand the consequences when they don’t.

My money, now being single I hear a lot about how; men especially car dealership or repair men try to take advantage of a woman when she comes into contact with them.  Trust me I don’t have time for that!  I will ask you some questions and I will expect some answers.  I’m not that chick; who will be scared of a man who attempt makes me feel like I need to make a decision quickly (desperate).  These same men have my life in there hands, yes.  Because they are working on my car and I would need them to pay close attention to what they are doing and do it to the best of their ability.  Treat my car and the services you provide like you would your mother or wife; if he has one.  Don’t come at me with a cost that was not discussed because at the end of the day it will become a blessing.  I don’t like feeling taken advantage of and being in certain situations but some helps me realize how much communicating is important.  I don’t like to hear how black folks don’t know how to take care of business.  I truly believe we can and we do, but even in that we have to communicate our expectations and make decisions accordingly.  When good service is provided make it known.  I think we do good with sharing bad experiences.

Now, when I’m married, if I say “don’t mess with my man” that will imply don’t do anything to cause him to questions his faith, purpose and time with his family.  Yet, at the end of the day, all three of these areas I see I must totally trust God; yet I truly understand not to try it with a woman.  Look at the picture one more time.  Because women have a lot of influence and you don’t want to get tried by them.  Beyoncé said it best in the movie “Obsession” when she said, “oh, you wanna see crazy”, “you ain’t seen crazy’.

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May 21, 2015, 10:00 AM
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I know there were talks about the role Bill Cosby played in the perception of what Black Dads look like.  I don’t have children, but I’ve been a child, had the opportunity to serve youth at my church and the honor to “babysit” many of my family friends children to know, parents need to pay attention to there children.  When children say something, one must listen and get in their world.  Children are inquisitive, don’t you remember when you were.  I don’t care what age they are, when they ask you a question you need to respond honestly.  Don’t take children for granted, if they asked you a question it’s because they are curious.  And believe me they are curious enough to go ask someone else.  PARENTS this is where your influence on your child comes to play, trust is being build and children and smell honesty and or dishonesty.  Let’s get it right the first time parents/adults.  It there’s nothing wrong with asking for HELP.  What does the word of God says about seeking counsel?  Yet, at the end of the day it is your child and you have the say so in how you will raise them, but remember your child is your seed who will grow up to be what you planted.  You will reap what you sow.

My insight:  I believe that the man/husband of the house acts as God, the woman/wife is the Holy Spirit and the child/ren is Jesus.  So pay attention to what they say and do. The word is like a two-edge sword and may come to correct, so just because you are an adult, don’t act like the child.  When you were a child, you acted like a child, but now that you are grown, put on your grown underwear and Keep It Moving.