The People In the Picture
June 16, 2015, 6:00 AM
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family memories

Have you ever been at a relatives house and they had piles of photo albums, or pictures in an old shoe box and you just wondered, who were those people in the picture?  I mean these are your matured relatives and one didn’t even know it.  I’ve heard of a situation where a family member had passed away and the family left behind ended up having a garage sale because they didn’t need for any of the items that remained.  They sold everything.  hey knew she was their great aunt Betty, but they didn’t know her, well.  The house was actually left to a great cousin Sue, but Sue died about 30 years ago.  And no one knew what to do because no paperwork was available.  No one actually knows how long the house had been in the family.

Nevertheless at the garage sale, there was this nice bronze frame with a picture in it.  No name, no dates, so the young couple thought that the picture that was inside was a picture that came with the frame.  You know how when you purchase a frame there’s a picture in it already?  Well, I guessed that’s what they were thinking.  Only to find out on their great uncles death bed.  He was mumbling about the picture.  He was describing what the lady had on.  He knew it so well; although it was a black and white picture.  The family for floored because they had no idea what he was referring too.  He was almost ignored because you know “they considered him old”.  Someone told the story to another relative who remembered the picture being sold at the garage sale. Now about three years later.  They had sold the picture frame for $10, only because it was ancient and bronze.  Very Victorian like.  Realization set in that the picture that was in the frame was a family member.

From that day when I heard the story, I realized how important it was to have names on the back of pictures and dates.  This is how I took to heart on creating family stories.  Although for years, I searched and searched for pictures of my mother and father.  I wanted to know what they were like before they got married and had children.  Being that my mother is deceased and my dad ….. ( I won’t say).  He’s not good with details.  Don’t remember what she (my mom) had on when they first met.  So, this gave me the encouragement to keep everything, save all memories and create books for my children when I have them.  These books will be around in my family and who ever retrieves them will know who I am, witness my growth and be amazed with my journey.

I encourage everyone to take time and capture those moments they encounter with family and friends.  I mean we are invited to things, we travel on purpose and we set out to spend quality time with people who are near and dear to our hearts, only to forget the details.  Capture them and make books to leave a legacy.  Contact me, I’ll help ….. Patchwork or visit me at Patchwork Website

The Perfect Family
June 9, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family camera

I’ve asked a class room of adults to draw a picture of the perfect family.  If only you were there to be able to see their responses.  Some didn’t want to brag on theirs, some believed it wasn’t theirs, so I asked through the confusing looks.  Is there a such thing?  They sighed.  Yes, you can draw your family.  We all carry flaws, negativity, drama and the works when dealing with family, but isn’t that apart of life?  Of course, I wouldn’t use the word PERFECT in reference to what we know it to be.  But in this man made world, is there anything perfect?

As this quote reads “Life is like a camera….” I would say, Family is like a camera…. Focus on what’s important.  It’s that simple.  Many times we can ponder up all kinds of things that go wrong, who did what?  Instead of recognizing what’s most important.  So now I ask the question.  What is important to you when it comes to family?  For me, I love spending time with my family.  We can absolutely be doing “nothing” but just being around them brings me joy.  Without a shadow of doubt, I know I will get a laugh.  I know someone is going to tell a story about the past.  We have to know what’s important to us and share, so others will know.

Capture good times, I love capturing the good times.  This is why I tend to do classes with helping others capture those moments.  You know how people do, they get an invitation to a party, go purchase an outfit to wear to that party and next thing you know, in today’s world.  People take pictures and post them on Facebook.  But what about your uncles and aunts whose not on Facebook.  I am sure many of them have tones of pictures in boxes in their drawer or under their bed. I would love for you to reach out to me, those stories must be captured and told my creating a memory book.

Develop from the negatives, yes we live and we learn.  Why make the same mistakes twice?  It’s interesting tho!  Because there are people even in families.  Where someone may have done or said something and that was the END of that relationship.  The blood is still there, but whatever happened has damaged the trust in the relationship.  But it’s still workable if the people are still alive.  We don’t have time to hold on to grudges and I don’t believe that the lesson is to stop talking to that person, maybe it’s knowing how to deal with the person at another level.  Learn from the negatives and become a better person, by not letting it become between you and the people involved.

And if things don’t work out, TAKE Another SHOT.  All we have is each other.  FAMILY.  It goes down in history.  If someone was to write your story, wouldn’t you want to see how your family connects.  Family means a lot in the eyes of God.  The family structure is the foundation of everything that comes from it, businesses, organization and you name it even the church.  The Body of Christ should look like a family.  Now what kind of family?  That’s up to you.  You stand for something or you’ll fall for anything …. check out my website at Patchwork or LIKE my Facebook Page and Keep Reading, I hear it keeps one young.

Family Dollar
June 2, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family money

The question was asked, “when should a parent start educating their child/ren about money”, my reply.  As soon as they know how to talk.  There is so much history when it comes to money and the cost of living.  When I look around and observe children today, they can appear so unappreciative or unaware that there is a cost to life.  Yes, I know Jesus Christ paid it all, but when it comes to character there is much to be developed and development should start at home.

The word of God says, we (parents/adults) should train up a child in the way to go, so that….when does or should the training start.  I love to hear parents say, they talked to their child while in the womb.  I’ve heard some say, “they prayed for their child before they were even conceived”, I think that is so awesome.

There’s artwork on money from the coins to the bills.  There’s so much to be discussed to a parent can get the child’s curiosity going by opening their observation to the different sizes and colors.  To me, money and relationships go hand in hand.  We often hear as adults, allow your money to work for you while you are sleep.  Well, the one you love, you would hope they love you when they walk up and will continue to want to serve you and love you with no limits.

There some connections with how we treat money is how we treat relationships, that’s probably why there are credit reports, they are asked for during the counsel sessions.  By no means, its used to be judged but someone can gauge how a person make decisions and why?  You witness teenagers talking about they can’t wait to drive, etc. but don’t know about insurance, getting the tags and the other responsibilities that comes with purchasing a vehicle.  Parents walk into a store and want everything they see, “time to understand that it cost”.

In my book, I write about “how we can’t cram” parenting.  You can’t plant a seed today, water it at night and expect a rose in the morning.  So, parents/adults start soon to teach your child/ren about money.  There’s so many subject matters to uncover.  We want them to respect currency just like they are to honor their mother and father.  I sure hope I answered someone’s question or curiosity.  Until next time, be informed about that life:  FAMILY!

There are 2 Things, Nawl 3 Things You Don’t Mess With
May 28, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family mom

I’m sure you heard a mother say, there are 2 things you don’t mess with; her child/ren and her money, but then with hesitation for some and proudly with others there’s one more; her man/husband.  To be a woman, I’m so thankful.  I do not have children of my own, but let me say.  My choice would be to have a husband first, but I don’t have him, yet either.  Yet, I can understand the challenge; just based on dealing with my money.  I don’t like MANipulators. They come off as people who really don’t know what they want and can’t be trusted.  I could go on with name calling, but that’s not my purpose for this message.

Because I’ve had the experience of raising my nephew and taking care of other people’s children.  I will say I’m honored to have been trusted with such privilege.  One can learn from these little people, we call children and you would want to protect the gift that’s inside of them, that haven’t fully blossomed.  During their childhood, an adult have an opportunity to plant seeds in there lives to hopefully take root to be remembered when they become an adult.  I don’t play when it comes to other people’s kid/s.  I treat them as if they were my own when they are with me.  They must eat, sleep and of course learn something when they are with me.  I will  ensure they follow the rules set by their parent/s and they will understand the consequences when they don’t.

My money, now being single I hear a lot about how; men especially car dealership or repair men try to take advantage of a woman when she comes into contact with them.  Trust me I don’t have time for that!  I will ask you some questions and I will expect some answers.  I’m not that chick; who will be scared of a man who attempt makes me feel like I need to make a decision quickly (desperate).  These same men have my life in there hands, yes.  Because they are working on my car and I would need them to pay close attention to what they are doing and do it to the best of their ability.  Treat my car and the services you provide like you would your mother or wife; if he has one.  Don’t come at me with a cost that was not discussed because at the end of the day it will become a blessing.  I don’t like feeling taken advantage of and being in certain situations but some helps me realize how much communicating is important.  I don’t like to hear how black folks don’t know how to take care of business.  I truly believe we can and we do, but even in that we have to communicate our expectations and make decisions accordingly.  When good service is provided make it known.  I think we do good with sharing bad experiences.

Now, when I’m married, if I say “don’t mess with my man” that will imply don’t do anything to cause him to questions his faith, purpose and time with his family.  Yet, at the end of the day, all three of these areas I see I must totally trust God; yet I truly understand not to try it with a woman.  Look at the picture one more time.  Because women have a lot of influence and you don’t want to get tried by them.  Beyoncé said it best in the movie “Obsession” when she said, “oh, you wanna see crazy”, “you ain’t seen crazy’.

Family Talks
May 21, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family child question

I know there were talks about the role Bill Cosby played in the perception of what Black Dads look like.  I don’t have children, but I’ve been a child, had the opportunity to serve youth at my church and the honor to “babysit” many of my family friends children to know, parents need to pay attention to there children.  When children say something, one must listen and get in their world.  Children are inquisitive, don’t you remember when you were.  I don’t care what age they are, when they ask you a question you need to respond honestly.  Don’t take children for granted, if they asked you a question it’s because they are curious.  And believe me they are curious enough to go ask someone else.  PARENTS this is where your influence on your child comes to play, trust is being build and children and smell honesty and or dishonesty.  Let’s get it right the first time parents/adults.  It there’s nothing wrong with asking for HELP.  What does the word of God says about seeking counsel?  Yet, at the end of the day it is your child and you have the say so in how you will raise them, but remember your child is your seed who will grow up to be what you planted.  You will reap what you sow.

My insight:  I believe that the man/husband of the house acts as God, the woman/wife is the Holy Spirit and the child/ren is Jesus.  So pay attention to what they say and do. The word is like a two-edge sword and may come to correct, so just because you are an adult, don’t act like the child.  When you were a child, you acted like a child, but now that you are grown, put on your grown underwear and Keep It Moving.

Family First
May 14, 2015, 10:00 AM
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Family First

The first family of the United States

I remember growing up and my parents installing in us that “what ever happens in our home, stays in our home”. With the way the world is today, I wonder, if other parents meant keeping love in the house. But we know that it was geared toward the “challenges” or what I will say the “lesson we should learn” encounters.

We are witnessing the First Black Family living in the White House and I’m sure everyone wants to know how they deal with challenges or lessons learned andif it was exposed with technology, it will get around quickly. It’s funny how people are drama driven and I often wonder if it have to do with what’s going on in their own home?

Do you think it’s important to know what’s going on in someone’s home when you have things you need to deal with in your home? Is your neediness faultered. WE all need to be relateable, but I think if you are not looking for solutions, but only ti air someone’s personal life you are not dealing with your own. What are the things we need to know about someone else? People had a lot to say about Michelle’s mother staying in the White House with them. What was the issue? It takes a village to raise a child and when you are in the spot light as they are you surely would want people you can trust around your growing children.

I admire the Obama’s. The fact that I get to witness a black man demonstrate the qualities of leading our nation and a black women from Chicago on his side. They seem like regular people who live a regular everyday life. I am sure it can be challenging to be compared to them. It may make a person feel overwhelmed because maybe they can’t live up to the expectations. Don’t stress yourself, let’s rejoice in being able to know anthying is possible.

I’ve heard that men are not involved with their children; physically, emotionally or spiritually. Well, this family proves that it’s a myth. Men will do what they desire. Michelle is a woman of grace and to see her operate is such elegance and being an example to her children is refreshing. She demonstrates what it look like to be submissive where it can be and doable. I am sure they are raising their children up in the way to go. Am I saying they are perfect, no! We have a real live example that will remain history.

Class Starts at Home
May 7, 2015, 10:00 AM
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Parenting, Children, Villiage

Parenting, Children, Villiage

Who would have thought that you would have to take a course or need a support group as a parent.  I’m witnessing that parenting is not an easy task.  I’m learning each day, that not only do adults/parents need to continue their education for various of other responsibilities, but having PARENTING tools is a must.

No one would want to fail at parenting and surely it’s not a subject matter where you can cram.  I’ve heard parents say, “I can’t wait until so and so gets eighteen years old, because they will be on their own”.  Let me tell you something, If you did not train your child up in the way to go, leaving your home will only be an adventure and a returning door.  Parenting have to have the wisdom to know when to teach their child the basics of life so they can become good giving citizens in this world.

I was just in a conversation the other day, where me and another adult was discussing how these young children today don’t realize the responsibility of taking care of an apartment.  They have to get the electricity turned on, water and in some cases other kinds of utilities and they quickly get overwhelmed because they are not prepared to handle such responsibilities.  When the word of God says to train up your child in the way to go, so that he or show won’t depart, what exactly does that mean as a parent to you? When do you think a child or your child is mature enough to leave home?

Even when they leave home, please know you become the counselor.  Your responsibilities are not over as a parent.  You are always in training, so continue to get equipped and staying encouraged by being around other supportive parents.  It surely takes one to know one.

Confused about Your Expectations
December 23, 2013, 6:59 PM
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We are two days away from Christmas and family members can have all kinds of expectations. They will have these high price gifts . And be the ones who didn’t talk to you all year, but yet expect YOU to purchase what they want. The years of creativity has been among us for years with this economy. I know children are expecting all kinds of “things” this year with this technolgoy. I don’t blame them, but my concern is whether or not you appreciate what you are given.

Then there are some single females expecting that engagement ring. I just hope they don’t set themselves up for disappointment.  Howver, I hope you planted the seeds, to reap what you have sown. Familes are expected to spend time together during this holiday season, but believe it or not. Some folks don’t want too. I hope people are dealing with their family issues or challenges because we are never guranteed another day, let alone another season.   How do you gauge the reality of your expectations?  (Listen to the song by XSCAPE: Understanding).

Are our expectations clear ? I truly believe this is the time to be about family and friends.  The season of reconcilation.  Isn’t that’s why He was born in the first place?  I know some family members can be a headache, but (Keep.In.Mind)  that the hardest person to LOVE is the person who need LOVE the most. Let the gift He gave be the example: LOVE more! Happy last minute planning.

I’m Hungry!
December 22, 2013, 8:08 PM
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The family theme song ……

Do mother’s still cook on Sunday’s? I can remember my grandmother preparing on Saturday. Well, do you at least sit down on Sunday to eat dinner together as a family? I believe it is at the dinner table where families really get to know one another. There is this myth: where people believe just because you live together that everyone knows one another. There are significant events that went on during the week that needs to be shared.

Is eating together costing too much? Meaning too much of your time? Are the children assisting? This was one of my joys when visiting grandma. She use to let me stir the cake batter and I get lick the remains in the bowl. At the table, I got to listen to stories by the adults. I will write, children didn’t have a voice when I was younger. There could have been things I could have revealed, if given the opportunity.

We hear a lot, “the things that comes from the mouth of babes”. If only parents can discern the heart of their children and I’m not saying that parents do not, but let me ask this question. How do you feel about eating together as a family and then if you are a parent, allowing your child to engage in the conversation at the dinner table? Are the conversationFamily Eating Lunch Together around the dinner, child proof? People are hungry for the truth and for genuine relationships. Start at home! Singles can do the same by cooking and inviting people over.

Is This Your Family?
December 22, 2013, 1:24 AM
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Is This Your Family?

Be honest tell the truth…..
I grew up watching the sitcom The Addam’s Family and to this day at times the theme song would play in my head, especially when I run into strange families. Well, let me be honest, when I am dealing with my own. Do you remember this American television series based on characters from a close-knit extended family. There were individuals with a supernatural abilities.

Do you believe that we all have supernatural abilities? If you don’t believe, does that have to do with not having an intentional relationship with Jesus Christ? In my life experience, I have learned that our names have a lot to do with our character. God did say He would make our name great and I believe our names have a major impact on our destiny and character development.

The characters in the television sitcom were Gomez, Mortica, Wednesday, Pugsley and Uncle Fester to name a few. Every time I heard the name Morticia I thought about a morgue. And take notice Wednesday the daughter was in the middle of all their experiences. Well, as my name is Kimberly and it means “strength and honor” from the bible scripture Proverbs 31:25. Once I realized that, I ensured my life demonstrated “strength and honor”. What does your name mean? If you don’t know. I would encourage you to take time to find out and see how it lines up with your current lifestyle.