A Look in the Eyes
January 23, 2016, 9:36 PM
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Purpose Driven Life, 22. Created to Become Like Christ. God said He created us in His image. If we were to look in the mirror would or could we say we represent Christ? In one word describe yourself as it relates to Christ. Of all the words in the world what word would people call you? For me it’s iNTENTIONAL. I believe my God is intentional.

He knew us in our mother’s womb.  He ensures that all things work together for His good. And He informs us to seek Him first.  That’s intentional.  It is my desire to bring value to those I come in contact with.  It would be nice to know what word others would use to describe me.

I desire to continue to grow.  That’s what Keep It Moving #K.I.M is all about. I don’t want to get stuck on stupid. We were not meant to stay the same.  If that was the case we would have stayed babies.  Yet,  what’s interesting to this point is the fact that naturally we will grow without any effort, however we need prepare to grow mentality and spiritually. After awhile you can’t continue to wear the same clothes, physically.

In being intentional about my grows not goals.  I seek God for the BIG picture and then I break it down into seasons.  Like the word says, one plants another waters but it’s God who brings the increase.  That’s growth all day long. What seeds are you allowing in your life?  Take heed of the fruit around you.

Make sure that in all you do that He gets the glory. And that when people see you they see Him. He is the FATHER. Go BEyond.


Strap It Up!
January 21, 2016, 12:03 PM
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Purpose Driving Life, Day 21. Protecting Your Church. In reading these daily devotions, I’ve learned that the church is not a building. It’s our brothers and sisters who attend the church, which creates fellowship when we come together. It’s like all of us is coming together to worship the God we serve.

Yet, in the midst of the worship, people (because we are human) come wounded. They are hurt for whatever reason and somewhere we have to be sensitive to be able to meet the need of the person, while at the same time we have to be vulnerable enough to seek for assistance and trust those God has placed in your life.

It’s interesting how relationships changes and grow, this is why we must stay focused on God because it will be easy to blame another person for our growth process when we don’t see things the way God see’s them. If there is frustration, irritating and a reason to belittle a person, we must check our hearts. Cast all our cares to the Lord. This is how we protect the church.

When we are believers He’s our Father, so we are His sons and daughters and we have to get alone. Our growth depends on these basic principles. Although, we may not have the same mother or father, but we have a Father who claims and chastises us to push us into our purpose and we need to protect the God gift within all of our because whatever happens to the toe will affect the finger.

What happens to the body affects the members associated with it, so we have to be intentional about encouraging and fighting to become all that God has called us to be. I know on my end, my brothers and sister and I have fought; but when it came to dealing with the things outside of our house we stood together. We can’t let the enemy steal, kill and destroy what God intended for His good.

The Body of Christ is a support group and at times with some of the experiences I have. I wish I could call my mom to discuss and interesting enough. On today, 16 years ago God took her; however I find relief in knowing that she’s with me because of the memories I have, the love she demonstrated and all the lessons I’ve learned because of her. I miss her physically, but spiritually I’m rich in her strength alongside knowing that I can trust God to be my strength in my weak areas. I know He will rise up and protect me and we have to do the same thing with one another.

Spend intentional time with those you serve with and those God has placed in your 1

Here’s my mother ………………… Portia B.



It Will Cost You
January 20, 2016, 9:39 PM
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Purpose Driven Life, Day 20. Restoring Broken Fellowship. My birthday is almost here (February 9th), we are 20 Days into the New Year and I’ve been keeping it moving with my daily blogging. So, proud of me. I’m going to celebrate. You have to be excited about the small things, make them big things because you are moving forward.

Which brings me to write about the devotion for today about restoring broken fellowships. I can remember hearing people make the statement “don’t fix what ain’t broken”.  I wonder what it looks like when a relationship is broken. I mean is a divorce considered broken? What about the family that’s functioning with only one parent? What about misunderstandings and the thought of just not liking someone who’s in  your circle?

What would a broken relationship look like to you? Yet, when it comes to God; He expects us as believers to reconcile any challenges or differences we may have to demonstrate His love. Now, you know there are people in our lives that could irritate the heck out of us and you’ve learned to love them from a distance; without the gossiping. You just learned how not to allow them into your inner circle. I may be one of those people that’s being irritating.

I know God expects us to demonstrate love and here’s another interesting quote I heard. The people who are the hardest to love are the people who need love the most. Now, doesn’t that hurt? How much time do we have to ensure our relationships are healthy and if it’s broken what would prevent you from restoring it? One thing for sure, bad relationships keeps you in prayer. God desires for us to constantly seek Him on how to deal with one another, because how we treat one another is a demonstration of our love with Him.

Yeah, the Lord is going to have to help me with this in some areas. I don’t know if I’m fooling myself when I say. “I have forgiven a person but I just don’t want to deal with them”. I would pray for them and everything but as far as having an authentic relationship with them, I’m not so sure.  I believe that the person whom I’m forgiving; if I see them again or if I’m around them and if they make me feel some kind of way. I know I still have some issues with them and I haven’t forgiven, but if we can be respectful to one another by speaking and recognizing one another when we are in one another’s presence. I sure hope that is pleasing to Him.

I also heard a quote that I would think is relevant here. ” I don’t have time for that”. Yet, I know I need to ensure that I’m intentional about all my relationships and do my best to LOVE others in His strength.

Check my events page to see if you can hang out with me during my birthday celebrations. We must celebrate LIFE.


Not a Day Off, but a Day On
January 19, 2016, 10:41 PM
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Purpose Driven Life, Day 19. Cultivating Community.  Yesterday there were many people out doing things in the community to honor the heart of what Martin Luther King Jr stood for. It’s amazing for me to know that where I grew up in Chicago i knew the people on my block.

Now, it would be a surprise if a person knew there neighbor to the left or right. Things have changed and I strongly believe we can’t continue to ignore the needs of our community.  Is it pain? What about selfishness?Whatever it is that causes us not to build healthy relationships, we need to disect and deal with it.   I have a few reasons in my book, Seasons of Intentional Relationships but I’m going to leave that right here.

It was a sight to see the men beautifying the outside of a school,  while the women were on the inside. I mean young girls were witnessing their mother do some cleaning and boys seeing their dad doing some raking and other outside needs.

These are not things that should just happen, it needs to be discussed.  Did the children know why they were out there? Did the young girls understand why they were washing walls that they didn’t dirty? The word says we are to train up a child in the way to go,so they won’t depart.

Well that’s not my child you say.  Well the last time I read the bible (nevermind). But what I do know is that to build community takes commitment.  We see things that are wrong and we won’t say anything. We have to be honest,  walk in humility,  provide courtesy,  create confidentiality,  and do it all frequently. And then when someone says something they are a nuisance, they don’t get the support that is needed. Giving the enemy the opportunity to beat that person down.

Basically what I’m saying is that God wants us to be intentional.  I was on the prayer call last Thursday, when they talked about commitment.  I believe it was Bishop Smith out of California.  Check out the call. Go to to listen.  There’s a place for you to download.  Trust me. It will bless you.  We have to get our relationship right with God and with our family to be able to strategically be able to move the way the Holy Spirit desires.

What does commitment look like to you?  What are you committed to do in your community,  but first it must start at home.


It’s Not Good to be Alone
January 19, 2016, 4:29 PM
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Purpose Driven Life, Day 18. Experiencing Life Together. YAAASSS!!!! Warren Allen, author of “Working for Mr. Edwards” and I, author of “Seasons of Intentional Relationship” did an interview on Atlanta LIVE 57 on yesterday and interesting enough me, being me. Always needing to connect the dots read my portion of the devotion today. We had an opportunity to talk about our books and the upcoming Just Write Writers Workshop to be held on January 23, 2016. You can go to New Birth or Just Write Writers Workshop for more details and to register.

The devotion starts off with life is to be shared. I’m so thankful that I’m not one of those people who have to compete. I truly believe there is enough space in this world to stay in our own designed lane. We all have a purpose and it’s important to understand what it is and to connect with those who will allow us to grow. Warren and I had a conversation today and this was our second “event” together and I shared with him that I’m so authentic; but it’s very important for me to be able to work with people who makes me feel like I’m family in order to do so.

Now don’t get me wrong, I know it’s not all about feelings; but in my own family. We fight and make up and I’m thankful to God to have shared this experience with a respectful young man as Mr. Allen, who I believe God is paving away for Him; that he haven’t even conceived yet. I’m just speaking that for my brother. At his age opportunity is limitless. By the way Warren, WARren is in your name, LOL.

In our conversation and from the devotion this morning it confirmed my character and the desires of God’s heart. As citizens in His kingdom here’s what’s expected: There is a need to have real fellowship, not over some chicken; but really create opportunities to get to know a person. Their story. I mean if you keep talking to me, I will end up encouraging you to write a book. IJS.

For those people that are in your life that you consider “important”, spend quality time with them. Don’t let life dictate your time by being too busy that you can’t take time out to spend with those you love. Even as Saints make time for friends, we have to make our relationships meaningful. We have to share ourselves that’s the only way to grow.

Although, I maybe a tidbit a few years older than Warren, I know I can learn from him too. Being in authentic relationships requires both courage and humility. We need accountability and encouragement. There are ups and downs but with this kinds of relationships I believe this is what will turn the hearts of the world to want what we have. We have to step out on trust and believe that God has placed the people in your circle for a reason, don’t take advantage of life and time and think we have forever to get to know a person and we end up procrastinating and in most situations not really dealing with issues that could potentially allow for the relationship to blossom. I talk about some of this is my book.

When we plant a seed, we can’t expect in to grow over night. The seed goes through dirt in order to blossom; so don’t give up when things get rough.


Go to ARTS: Just Write to see pictures.

You can find Warren on his Facebook Page, under Warren Allen he has a website; but I don’t have it write. I mean right off.

Missing Person Person ALERT
January 18, 2016, 12:28 PM
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Purpose Driven Life, Day 17. A Place to Belong.  Have you ever experienced seeing a child in the street or running around the mall or simply walking alone and you wondered to your self.  Where in the world is their parents or questioned who were they with?  Do we respond like this when you ask a person where do they go to church? And where do they serve?

As a believers we all should be a part of a body, a church; which is called membership.  Membership should require some expectations.  And those expectations should stem from godly principles surrounding building authentic relationships and not policy and procedures based on rules and regulations.

A person can not grow in their character,  if they are not part or involved with a community.  We all have a role to play on this side of heaven. We need each other,  we can not grow alone. I write about this in my first book, Seasons of Intentional Relationships.

We can’t be committed to ourselves,  there is too much room to become selfish and righteous.  We need others. God designed it that way.  There’s nothing wrong with needing others but I will write …. ask God to show you the body you need to connect with.  Or the community you should be a part of because just as others should help you.  There should be a group of people you should be responsible for.

It’s all about giving and receiving to grow; which takes being honest and open; while taking time out to work on the process where ever you might find yourself. No one said it was easy but consider the meaning of commitment and ensure you finish what you start.

I pray that all my family and friends are successful and bring value to each others lives.



Take a Look in the Mirror
January 18, 2016, 4:51 AM
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Purpose Driven Life, Day 16. What Matters Most. The question would be how do you spend your time? Do we spend enough time to reflect on what matters? What matters to you? When we do look in the mirror do we like what we see?

Well do we LOVE what we see?  Self-esteem is important from the perspective of how we see ourselves.  How we see ourselves will show up in how we spend our time.  We are just that valuable to have boundaries and standards,  even if that’s fighting for doing what’s right for you and standing alone.

Wait a minute standing alone is not fun,  so where is the balance?  Where would you bend? To me a part of having boundaries is not allowing someone to waste your time.  One of my love languages is quality time. I like to do NOTHING at times and there are times I’m intentional about exploring into doing new things,  that leads to growing; so when situations interfere with that process I have to reflect.

My reflection consist of the value I place on consistency, how often does it happen and for how long? I have to determine what needs to change to prevent certain situations from repeatedly happening or allowing myself to be impacted by it, especially if it’s not healthy.  As my grandma would say,  if it happen to you once shame on them but twice shame on you.

The root of the decision to be made is whether or not LOVE is demonstrated.  Love is demonstrated in so many facets.  I have to be mindful about what I’m passionate about and not get too busy to where other areas are neglected in my life, which I may say I love. Some things that I planned to do may not happen as desired, which when they don’t I tend to go back to revisit the thought processes and the intent of the matter to determine if it’s worth my time to commit any further.

My bottom line of what matters is how I spend my time because when one used you can’t get it back. And you can truly get to know a person by how they spend there time. I will encourage others to look at themselves first.