Describe Your Family
June 23, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family villiage

I can’t help but think about a comment my pastor made once.  He said “if we keep going the way we are regarding family, we will end up having to go to a museum to see what a family looks like”.  I had to think about that not just for minutes, nor hours, but he said this some years ago and it still bothers me.  I think it bothers me because I’m not sure how to answer the questions I ask myself.  First, how are we keep going?  What are families doing or not doing?

Is he referring to the single parent homes, the many young men getting shot and there’s no father around.  Or is he talking about families not even sitting together to eat.  There was a time where families sat together, helped with preparation for any meal, but are families still doing that.  I see more grandparents and other family members raising children verses the one’s who actually birth the child.

On the other hand I know so many young people coming up who are doing the right things like getting married before they have children, and it makes me proud.  So to me the future is bright.  I haven’t taken a survey and it’s easier to dwell on the negative verses the positive, so what can we do to ensure that families stay together and demonstrate what family suppose to look like.  With divorce rates rising and we have gotten on the term, “children having children” because it has become normal.  I will say this in responding to what the pastor said.

Family may not look the way we think:  The mother, father, 3 children and a dog, but family has become to be a support system of others who care about the same things I care about.  They are people who I can call upon to help me on my journey whether I’m raising a child, or babysitting someone else’s.  Neighbors just live next door.  People we sit in church next to are just filling a sit.

We have to become more friendly, you know like the word of God say.  Show yourself to be friendly.  I get it people don’t want people in their business, but as an entrepreneur.  I want everybody to know what I do because what I do is responding to a need.  The need is to ensure we connect with those around us by any means necessary that equates to demonstrating LOVE.  We owe no man but to love him.  We are all family, this is why we call Him, our Father.

We can no longer look over our shoulders as if the community affairs are not our problems, when we live in that community. Men, if there are single women in your neighborhood and she has a son. Ask how you can assist with no motive but to ensure that the children are being raised to be effective citizens.  There is so much work to do and where we start is by FIRST …. sharing our stories, our journey, ourselves with one another.  We all have a lesson that has been learned.  Reminding of this song that sings “I am a nobody, trying to tell everybody, about some body who will change anybody”.

Keep On Truckin
June 21, 2015, 6:00 AM
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Keep On Truckin

Curtis Mayfield (Diamond in the Back)

The People In the Picture
June 16, 2015, 6:00 AM
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family memories

Have you ever been at a relatives house and they had piles of photo albums, or pictures in an old shoe box and you just wondered, who were those people in the picture?  I mean these are your matured relatives and one didn’t even know it.  I’ve heard of a situation where a family member had passed away and the family left behind ended up having a garage sale because they didn’t need for any of the items that remained.  They sold everything.  hey knew she was their great aunt Betty, but they didn’t know her, well.  The house was actually left to a great cousin Sue, but Sue died about 30 years ago.  And no one knew what to do because no paperwork was available.  No one actually knows how long the house had been in the family.

Nevertheless at the garage sale, there was this nice bronze frame with a picture in it.  No name, no dates, so the young couple thought that the picture that was inside was a picture that came with the frame.  You know how when you purchase a frame there’s a picture in it already?  Well, I guessed that’s what they were thinking.  Only to find out on their great uncles death bed.  He was mumbling about the picture.  He was describing what the lady had on.  He knew it so well; although it was a black and white picture.  The family for floored because they had no idea what he was referring too.  He was almost ignored because you know “they considered him old”.  Someone told the story to another relative who remembered the picture being sold at the garage sale. Now about three years later.  They had sold the picture frame for $10, only because it was ancient and bronze.  Very Victorian like.  Realization set in that the picture that was in the frame was a family member.

From that day when I heard the story, I realized how important it was to have names on the back of pictures and dates.  This is how I took to heart on creating family stories.  Although for years, I searched and searched for pictures of my mother and father.  I wanted to know what they were like before they got married and had children.  Being that my mother is deceased and my dad ….. ( I won’t say).  He’s not good with details.  Don’t remember what she (my mom) had on when they first met.  So, this gave me the encouragement to keep everything, save all memories and create books for my children when I have them.  These books will be around in my family and who ever retrieves them will know who I am, witness my growth and be amazed with my journey.

I encourage everyone to take time and capture those moments they encounter with family and friends.  I mean we are invited to things, we travel on purpose and we set out to spend quality time with people who are near and dear to our hearts, only to forget the details.  Capture them and make books to leave a legacy.  Contact me, I’ll help ….. Patchwork or visit me at Patchwork Website

The Perfect Family
June 9, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family camera

I’ve asked a class room of adults to draw a picture of the perfect family.  If only you were there to be able to see their responses.  Some didn’t want to brag on theirs, some believed it wasn’t theirs, so I asked through the confusing looks.  Is there a such thing?  They sighed.  Yes, you can draw your family.  We all carry flaws, negativity, drama and the works when dealing with family, but isn’t that apart of life?  Of course, I wouldn’t use the word PERFECT in reference to what we know it to be.  But in this man made world, is there anything perfect?

As this quote reads “Life is like a camera….” I would say, Family is like a camera…. Focus on what’s important.  It’s that simple.  Many times we can ponder up all kinds of things that go wrong, who did what?  Instead of recognizing what’s most important.  So now I ask the question.  What is important to you when it comes to family?  For me, I love spending time with my family.  We can absolutely be doing “nothing” but just being around them brings me joy.  Without a shadow of doubt, I know I will get a laugh.  I know someone is going to tell a story about the past.  We have to know what’s important to us and share, so others will know.

Capture good times, I love capturing the good times.  This is why I tend to do classes with helping others capture those moments.  You know how people do, they get an invitation to a party, go purchase an outfit to wear to that party and next thing you know, in today’s world.  People take pictures and post them on Facebook.  But what about your uncles and aunts whose not on Facebook.  I am sure many of them have tones of pictures in boxes in their drawer or under their bed. I would love for you to reach out to me, those stories must be captured and told my creating a memory book.

Develop from the negatives, yes we live and we learn.  Why make the same mistakes twice?  It’s interesting tho!  Because there are people even in families.  Where someone may have done or said something and that was the END of that relationship.  The blood is still there, but whatever happened has damaged the trust in the relationship.  But it’s still workable if the people are still alive.  We don’t have time to hold on to grudges and I don’t believe that the lesson is to stop talking to that person, maybe it’s knowing how to deal with the person at another level.  Learn from the negatives and become a better person, by not letting it become between you and the people involved.

And if things don’t work out, TAKE Another SHOT.  All we have is each other.  FAMILY.  It goes down in history.  If someone was to write your story, wouldn’t you want to see how your family connects.  Family means a lot in the eyes of God.  The family structure is the foundation of everything that comes from it, businesses, organization and you name it even the church.  The Body of Christ should look like a family.  Now what kind of family?  That’s up to you.  You stand for something or you’ll fall for anything …. check out my website at Patchwork or LIKE my Facebook Page and Keep Reading, I hear it keeps one young.

Family Dollar
June 2, 2015, 10:00 AM
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family money

The question was asked, “when should a parent start educating their child/ren about money”, my reply.  As soon as they know how to talk.  There is so much history when it comes to money and the cost of living.  When I look around and observe children today, they can appear so unappreciative or unaware that there is a cost to life.  Yes, I know Jesus Christ paid it all, but when it comes to character there is much to be developed and development should start at home.

The word of God says, we (parents/adults) should train up a child in the way to go, so that….when does or should the training start.  I love to hear parents say, they talked to their child while in the womb.  I’ve heard some say, “they prayed for their child before they were even conceived”, I think that is so awesome.

There’s artwork on money from the coins to the bills.  There’s so much to be discussed to a parent can get the child’s curiosity going by opening their observation to the different sizes and colors.  To me, money and relationships go hand in hand.  We often hear as adults, allow your money to work for you while you are sleep.  Well, the one you love, you would hope they love you when they walk up and will continue to want to serve you and love you with no limits.

There some connections with how we treat money is how we treat relationships, that’s probably why there are credit reports, they are asked for during the counsel sessions.  By no means, its used to be judged but someone can gauge how a person make decisions and why?  You witness teenagers talking about they can’t wait to drive, etc. but don’t know about insurance, getting the tags and the other responsibilities that comes with purchasing a vehicle.  Parents walk into a store and want everything they see, “time to understand that it cost”.

In my book, I write about “how we can’t cram” parenting.  You can’t plant a seed today, water it at night and expect a rose in the morning.  So, parents/adults start soon to teach your child/ren about money.  There’s so many subject matters to uncover.  We want them to respect currency just like they are to honor their mother and father.  I sure hope I answered someone’s question or curiosity.  Until next time, be informed about that life:  FAMILY!